Is it better to remain single or what please is the problem? Is it a problem of liberation or what is it that after all the lavishness of the weddings, the marriage seem to just disintegrate after only a few years! Is it even worth it to be married? Or should we put it another way, are marriages worth all the stress and effort?
Who is to blame? The wife? The husband? Their families? The society? Expectations? Please who or what is it to be blamed? Why can't these young couples weather the storm and rekindle their loves for each other. Or maybe, it wasn't really love in the first instance. Maybe it was all for convenience from the get go!
So is it not better to just be careful, by not lavishing unnecessarily for a wedding ceremony, that would only be for about 2 days at most. Why not put all effort and everything into a marriage rather than all in the wedding party, just to impress those who don't actually give a damn!
Have our values totally gone to the gutters? Do we think or did we think that 2 people coming from totally different backgrounds would just always have it fun and great and good? Can't we ever understand that relationship, marriage is about compromise? We would most definitely piss each other off throughout our lifetime, but that doesn't mean we can't make up and trudge on and make our friendships, relationships, marriages work!
Even if things have totally gone askance, can't we just be very adult about it and for the sakes of many of those involved, by this we mean our children, just work it out even if not as a couple, but as friends, knowing very well that the future state of mind of those kids are determined by us.
Is it a state of pride? My parents, family are better than yours and then expectations skyrockets and in trying to meet up, stress arises and destroys everything!
There are too many examples to point to, where everything was used to have the most lavish and mouth opening wedding ceremonies, only for those marriages contracted to hit the rocks just a few months after!
There is the need for us to sit down and think very well before we take the next steps that can ruin us and take us through hell. Maybe we don't pray enough? But also if we pray and there's no action from us, then it's a problem too!
Maybe those getting wedded needs to be more involved by telling their parents who wants to impress the world to actually cool off!
What can we do to actually rescue the situation? MBG, GBG, Palesa, Fan, Bubblegum, Love and Charm, Aproko, all anons over to you?